Though all humans are wired with intelligence, very few persons are emotionally intelligent. This presentation by one of our corporate speakers helps each team player to appreciate the need for emotional intelligence.


Who has woes? Who has pain of heart? Who has made enemies for themselves before realizing it? Who has set themselves ablaze without knowing it? It’s the one speaking without thinking like a motormouth.

“A man of knowledge restrains his words, and a discerning man will remain calm,” says a Hebrew proverb. This hints us that in the multitude of words come trouble and fights. And that there is no beauty in talkativeness.

Talkativeness is not a show of one’s knowledge; neither is knowledge a virtue. It’s the application of knowledge that gives birth to virtues. For instance, one may know that the use of abusive speech is offensive. This knowledge is just useless until one restrains themselves from vulgar.

How Humans Differ from Animals

One of the differences between man and animals is that man thinks while animals don’t. Animals work with instinct while man is guided by knowledge and discernment.
In addition, one major quality that differentiates a man from all intelligent creation is emotional intelligence. Although all humans are wired with intelligence, not all are emotionally intelligent.

Emotional intelligence is the application of knowledge and acting in wisdom. Wisdom, the application of knowledge, helps a man to watch what he says, and how he says them. How people react to what we say, is determined by how we say them. So a wise man thinks about how what he says will affect his audience and move them to act.

Therefore, he tries to avoid conflicts and trouble. He does not want to cause offense even when provoked because he is aware that that may endanger his life and that of those around him.
Godly wisdom reminds him that a slave of the lord does not need to fight but is peaceable. So he chooses to remain calm when provoked to anger. He has in focus the consequences of uncontrolled anger, so he always restrains his words. He recalls that silence is not only the best answer to a fool, but the best answer to provocation when under pressure to fight for our right. Silence can right the wrong.

When can silence work for you?
When you are under pressure to fight for your right: Many persons will speak out loud and even shout and scream when others infringe on their rights. And this has hardly changed the situation. Quite too often, it’s not what we say in anger when under pressure that solves the problems we face. Rather, it’s how we are able to control ourselves and maintain our sanity that makes the difference. Sometimes, silence can be more eloquent than words.

When you just have to listen: there is a time to speak and a time to be silent. We cannot be speaking and listening at the same time. Instead of dominate discussions, debates and , you do well to restrain yourself from many words and do more of listening so you can have solutions to pressing issues that may test our discernment.

Those in authority must work hard to exercise restraints when speaking and dealing with their subordinates in order to provide an enabling environment for all thrive. Always remember that the person of knowledge restrains their words, and a person of discernment will remain calm.